Radiate LOVE.

Radiate LOVE: Kellie Kennedy-One Baby Boomers View On Life.

St. Valentine’s Day never been a big fan of the day. I always felt it’s such a forced day, where couples must show proof of their love, affection and respect for one another. The poor guy/girl who have the unfortunate timing to begin their dating ritual during  Valentine’s week. SUCH PRESSURE to perform on that one day! I’m really not ANTI-VALENTINE’S DAY. However, more of the belief that such expressions of love, affection and respect should come naturally and be expressed throughout the year for your partner. Over the years I have watched this day come and go, observing couples who partake in this pressured filled day.  This has given me a unique perspective of the “so-called” romantic day. 

Does the day ever really meet anyone’s expectations? In my opinion …NO! Every year I see couples who go “all out” on that ONE special day trying to impress. Sky writing their partners name in the sky with the “words I love you” seems to be the gift of choice for many these days. Or the exciting and romantic hot air balloon ride with champagne and flowers. My first thought when I see such extravagant gifts on Valentine’s Day; do they radiate that same LOVE and RESPECT for each other throughout the year? 

This past 1 1/2 years of watching my parents cope with my father’s Metastatic Bladder Cancer, has really made the definition of the words love, affection and respect clear to me. My father has just finished 21 rounds of radiation therapy. To his credit, he handled the intense treatment with grace and dignity. By my father’s side everyday was my mother, showing her love, affection and respect for him during this difficult time. With Valentine’s Day on the horizon, I recently pondered just how many couples truly attempt to show their partner concern, emotions and feelings 365 days a year. Why is it couples place so much importance on this ONE day a year and not the entire year?

 Some might believe as a society we have become so busy in our everyday lives it’s only natural for partners to lose that “spark” and over time less romance will occur in the relationship. I don’t subscribe to this way of thinking. Watching my parents express the same love for each other during his cancer, was all I needed to become a true believer that everyday romance is possible in committed relationships. Looking at how much time and effort is given to Valentine’s Day and not the everyday maintenance of relationships, makes me a big believer WE as a society need to step up our game. 

I feel very lucky to have watched my parents attempts to show love, affection and respect to each other throughout their 55 years of marriage. Most recently, when it was most needed … during severe illness. In my opinion, my parents are a perfect example of expressing Valentine’s Day …everyday of the year.

8 responses to this post.

  1. When I think of a loving relationship your parents always come to my mind. I pray that I find a love as deep as their love is for each other. Someone who is by my side good or bad, sickness or in health. Happy V-Day Woman!


  2. Dear Deb,
    such kind words. I often say relationships are work and so many people unwilling to do the work to receive the benefits of a loving partner. I watched them put in the work on good days and bad. I am very proud to have them as my parents.


  3. Not only a beautiful post, but you also have a great point. Through all the commercialism and extravagance of the day, in the end, it’s one’s actions outside of this day that matter the most. As you mention above, marriage is work! Well done, Kellie, and all the best to you and your parents during this difficult journey.


    • thank you much frank. You landed in spam for some reason. I know that some people feel differently about Valentine’s. But someone could give me a handmade card on this day and it would mean more to me than extravagant gifts.


  4. Hi Kellie, well you know my stance on Valentine’s Day. I’m not a huge fan. But I am a huge fan of showing love all the time. I leave little post-it notes on his mirror, hide a love note in his luggage, but most importantly, I tell him AND show him I love him every single day. And he repays me in kind. We don’t ask for it, it’s just there. So happy for you that you have great parents. And I’m happy for them that they have a great daughter in you. Hope it was a good one. Lovely post.


    • Tammy
      Thanks so much for your comments. I love to hear people who are activily doing work on their relationships. It’s incredibly difficult these days to keep two people together in long term relationships due to many outside issues. Love to hear people putting in the extra time to show their love and affection.


  5. Hi Kellie. You know, I hadn’t thought of it before, but my wife and I do almost nothing (beyond the usual flowers) for Valentines day. I suppose, now that you mention it, it’s because we really do so much in the way of sharing our love and affection throughout the year, that there’s simply no pressure on that one day.

    By the way, I agree with you that you are very lucky to have had all these years with your parents together and still loving each other.

    Good post. Glad to see you posting again.


  6. Thank you so much for taking time to read my post. I have given that day much thought over the years being single watching it come and go. Observing other couples play out the v-day. I just prefer. The dad prior to v-day filled w/the love and respect. I agree I am damn lucky to have enjoyed my parents all these years. With my father’s current cancer it hits home everyday. We in fact lost my father’s brother unexpectedly aftet a surgery,and this really made an impact on all of us.


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