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Heaven Has A Hell Of A Guy!

Heaven Has A Hell Of A Guy!

July 5th I lost my beloved father to stage 4 Bladder Cancer. He was such a tenacious fighter. This December would have been 4 years of battling this horrific cancer. He did it with such grace and dignity. He passed at home with family all around him surrounded by things that made him happy. While preparing for his upcoming services, I had the task of calling his long time business associates, friends and family. At first I dreaded this daunting task.

By the end of the 100th call, I found that I was in such a better place. The conversations I had with his business associates were so amazing. I heard over and over that they never met a kinder, upstanding, loyal, smart and classy man. I must have heard the phrase ” he was a hell of a guy” 50 times or more. I found myself laughing about stories they were telling me on the phone. People were actually honored and looking forward to being part of his send off to Heaven.


Even though it is a great and tragic loss for our family, friends and his business associates, Heaven has received a hell of guy!  Will see you in heaven. Save me a seat next to you and we can have a vodka on the rocks and  listen to Louie Armstrong’s record, “”What a Wonderful World over and over and over like old times. Love you forever Papa.

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A Yogi Not The Average Bear…

A Yogi Not The Average Bear: By Kellie Kennedy-One Baby Boomers View On Life.

What pops in your mind when you hear someone say “I am a yogi?” For many people the mind goes straight to that loveable Yogi Bear and his side kick Boo Boo living in Jellystone Park.

In the year 2012, a yogi is a person who practices yoga  a traditional Indian spiritual discipline which includes meditation and spiritual exercises. I am proud to be a yogi. I am a much healthier, happier and better person for practicing yoga and becoming part of this wonderful and insightful community.

I think for many who don’t understand the practice  of yoga, they perhaps first visualize the old Ghandi sitting on a mat with his legs crossed. While Mahatma Gandhi achieved what he did by cleaning out his mind, by continuous effort, and by the practice of  karma yoga, there is so much more to understanding the practice of yoga.

Each time I attend my yoga class, I think I may have mastered it. I am of course completely delusional.  However, then I am quickly brought right back to reality when I find myself fighting downward facing dog pose …WOOF! I love the fact that yoga teaches a person how to practice more patience. A virtue that has started to serve me very well in my life. I recently came across (by accident) a wonderful explanation of “patience” written by Christopher Dilts.
“Patience is not about waiting. It is not about too little, or too much. It is not about working slowly, or working faster – it is not about taking more time or taking less time.

It is about letting go completely, absolutely, totally; with no strings attached. No strings of any kind. It is about being without the strings. The strings being the ‘push’ and ‘pull’ of our attachments to our intentions, our expectations, our desires.

It is about allowing what is its’ right time, right place, right way of coming into full being. It is about our perceptions being fully open to the moment. It is about sensing and moving with the ebb and flow of all tides.” 

A few years back, I committed my life to yoga as one of my forms of exercise. I decided to practice yoga due to a reoccurrence/diagnosis of Thyroid Cancer. During my cancer treatment, I was introduced to yoga through a wellness center. A large majority of  cancer patients during and after treatment, decide to join this wonderful community and life as a yogi. 

I found there are so many benefits to yoga other than just for exercise. Stress can be a killer for many people. By meditation skills in yoga, I was able to better handle stressful situations and bring down my level of anxiety. I recently placed myself on a small sabbatical from yoga class, while nursing an arm injury (I received outside yoga class). While I was not physically taking my yoga classes, I found myself “out of sorts” to say the least. Not on top of my game. Note to self …continue the practice of medication. Now at 90% recovery, I am back in yoga class and reaping the full benefits of the practice. Yoga is practiced and enjoyed by both women and men. I urge all my readers to investigate the possibility of incorporating yoga in their lifestyle.

Squirrely For Virgin Coconut Oil.


Squirrely For Coconut Oil: By Kellie Kennedy-One Baby Boomers View On Life.

Virgin coconut oil… the new black!

I do believe Gilligan and all his fellow stranded castaways had the right idea; use coconuts for just about anything. As a kid, I used to love the show Gilligan’s Island. I was so fascinated by how many ways the castaways used a coconut while stranded on the island. Each week I would tune into the TV show to see what the professor came up with next. He was extremely knowledgable on so many subjects. I often wondered why he could not come up with a full proof plan to get them off the dang island.  However, he could create a telephone from two coconut shells and a string!

If you were an avid watcher of the TV show, you will recall the castaways used every part of the coconut. The natural virgin coconut oil was used to condition the hair and skin of Ginger and Mariann. The oil was also used to fry and cook food. The castaways used the meat of the coconut as a side dish or ingredient to a homemade coconut cream pie. I often thought to myself, these were pretty fancy cooking skills; even Julia Child herself would be impressed. The coconut oil was also used for  medicinal purpose from a bug bite to Beriberi Disease. Who can forget the infamous coconut shells used to create a telephone. The coconut shells had several uses, from drinking cups to candle holders. Careful, the one area the castaways never covered was the side effects of too much coconut oil in your diet. Diarrhea!!

I include coconut oil in my diet and daily lifestyle. Several times a week when preparing my meals, I substitute virgin olive oil with virgin coconut oil when I saute foods. In addition, I love using the coconut oil to remove my makeup before bedtime. I leave a little oil on my face at night as my overall moisturizer. Nothing I have found in the beauty supply stores makes a  better hair conditioner for your heated hair cap then virgin coconut oil. As with any product, every person should consult with their own health professional prior to using coconut oil if unclear of the health risks or benefits.

When purchasing coconut oil make sure you buy the “virgin” coconut oil instead of the “ordinary” coconut oil. There is  difference in processing and extraction. In my case and for several family members, it has been a positive experience incorporating virgin coconut oil into our lifestyles. One might even say “I’m squirrely for virgin coconut oil.”  think the castaways would be proud!

Radiate LOVE.

Radiate LOVE: Kellie Kennedy-One Baby Boomers View On Life.

St. Valentine’s Day never been a big fan of the day. I always felt it’s such a forced day, where couples must show proof of their love, affection and respect for one another. The poor guy/girl who have the unfortunate timing to begin their dating ritual during  Valentine’s week. SUCH PRESSURE to perform on that one day! I’m really not ANTI-VALENTINE’S DAY. However, more of the belief that such expressions of love, affection and respect should come naturally and be expressed throughout the year for your partner. Over the years I have watched this day come and go, observing couples who partake in this pressured filled day.  This has given me a unique perspective of the “so-called” romantic day. 

Does the day ever really meet anyone’s expectations? In my opinion …NO! Every year I see couples who go “all out” on that ONE special day trying to impress. Sky writing their partners name in the sky with the “words I love you” seems to be the gift of choice for many these days. Or the exciting and romantic hot air balloon ride with champagne and flowers. My first thought when I see such extravagant gifts on Valentine’s Day; do they radiate that same LOVE and RESPECT for each other throughout the year? 

This past 1 1/2 years of watching my parents cope with my father’s Metastatic Bladder Cancer, has really made the definition of the words love, affection and respect clear to me. My father has just finished 21 rounds of radiation therapy. To his credit, he handled the intense treatment with grace and dignity. By my father’s side everyday was my mother, showing her love, affection and respect for him during this difficult time. With Valentine’s Day on the horizon, I recently pondered just how many couples truly attempt to show their partner concern, emotions and feelings 365 days a year. Why is it couples place so much importance on this ONE day a year and not the entire year?

 Some might believe as a society we have become so busy in our everyday lives it’s only natural for partners to lose that “spark” and over time less romance will occur in the relationship. I don’t subscribe to this way of thinking. Watching my parents express the same love for each other during his cancer, was all I needed to become a true believer that everyday romance is possible in committed relationships. Looking at how much time and effort is given to Valentine’s Day and not the everyday maintenance of relationships, makes me a big believer WE as a society need to step up our game. 

I feel very lucky to have watched my parents attempts to show love, affection and respect to each other throughout their 55 years of marriage. Most recently, when it was most needed … during severe illness. In my opinion, my parents are a perfect example of expressing Valentine’s Day …everyday of the year.

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